Infidelity is a very delicate subject to talk about. This is because is one of the most painful and life-shattering situation women can experience. Now because men are more likely to cheat that doesn’t mean that women don’t do it as well. Both men and women cheat. Just wanted to make that clear! Now for the purpose of this post, I’m going to focus only on the reasons why men do it.
According to the University of Chicago Independence Association: Men cheats actually 21% of the time, while women are anywhere between 10% or 15% –
The truth about infidelity is that is not one single factor that leads to it. Is a combination of different things that combined together contribute in their own way to determine if a man will cheat on you or stay faithful.
This is literally one of the most frequently asked questions I get from women, so today I decided to break the silence and tell you some of the core reasons behind men infidelity so that women can have a better understanding of why this happens. Casanova Style…
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Why Men Cheat:
Men who cheat on their partners are very creative when it comes to explaining why they were unfaithful in the first place and most of the reasons that they use to justify their infidelity are plainly absurd. So when they are confronted they rationalized and justify their behavior with phrases like these:
– “If I got enough sex or more attention at home I wouldn’t need to go out and get it elsewhere” –
– “If my job wasn’t so stressful I wouldn’t need the release I get from getting a lap dance” –
– “I’m only sexting and flirting. What’s the harm in that? I don’t meet up with these women in person” –
– “If that cop would it be chasing real criminals I wouldn’t have gotten caught with a prostitute” –
I know that cheating is an option, but is only one among many. But how about if instead of taking that option they will actually take the time to talk to their partners about what they are feeling and try to find a way to work out those issues. Wouldn’t that be a better choice than lying, manipulating, and keeping secrets from a woman they supposedly love and care about?
I know that for some women if a man cheats is done and over with. But just because she eventually decided to end the relationship it doesn’t mean that it didn’t hurt her. Infidelity brings a lot of negative emotions. It takes times to get over someone and repair that emotional damage.
Check out my post on How to Recover from Infidelity in Just 5 Steps
This leaves us with one simple question: Why do men really cheat? The truth is that all sorts of dynamics can play into a man’s decision to be unfaithful. Generally, his choice to cheat is driven by one or more of the following reasons. Casanova Style…
Also, there is light at the end of the tunnel so read until the end to learn more…
Reason #1 – Immaturity:
If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his partner, he may think it is fine to have a sexual encounter with another woman. He might think of his commitment to monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the circumstances.
Reason #2 – Insecurity:
He may feel that he is too old, or maybe too young, not handsome enough, not making enough money, not smart enough, etc. So in order to compensate for this and raise his ego, he seeks validation from other women using sex to spark interest and to feel wanted, desired, and worthy.
Reason #3 – He Wants to End It:
He may want to end his current relationship. However, instead of just telling his partner that he’s unhappy and wants to break things off, he cheats so she will do it for him – that way he will also have another woman waiting in line while still in a relationship.
Reason #4 – Selfishness:
It’s possible that his primary consideration is for himself and himself only. He can therefore lie and keep secrets without remorse or regret, as long as it gets him what he wants. It’s possible he never intended to be faithful in the first place. Rather than seeing his commitment to just one woman as the building blocks for a long lasting relationship, he views it as something to be avoided and worked around.
Reason #5 – Sudden Opportunity:
He may never have even thought about cheating in the first place until an opportunity suddenly presented itself. Then, without even thinking about what infidelity might do to his relationship, he went for it. And after life goes back to the way it was for him until another opportunity comes again.
Reason #6 – Unrealistic Expectations:
He may feel that his partner should meet his every needs and desire, sexual and otherwise, regardless of how she feels at any particular moment. But he fails to understand that she has a life of her own, with thoughts and feelings and needs that don’t always involve him. When his expectations are not met, he seeks external fulfillment.
Reason #7 – No Consequences:
A lot of men cheat and continue cheating because they keep getting away with it. If his partner finds out but never break up with him or give him an easy pass he may think that there are no consequences for his actions and will continue doing it over and over again.
Reason #8 – Boredom:
For some men being with only one woman can be boring and stressful. He might love his partner, but single life is carefree and exciting, but also lonely. They would rather not lose the woman they love but still want a distraction from the pressure that comes with responsibility. They are looking for a quick return to the carefree days with the security of a committed relationship.
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Reason #9 – It’s Too Easy:
Back in the day, being unfaithful took serious effort and risks. You had to meet in secrecy with the other person (Most of the time in public places) and there was a substantial amount of back and forward. Nowadays, with dating sites and casual encounters apps, men can get sex almost whenever they like. So basically they do it just because the means to do it has become easier and less risky.
Reason #10 – Curiosity:
Men are very curious! Have you ever noticed that sometimes men cheat with a woman of less social value or beauty than their significant other? That is because for men it doesn’t matter if the woman has a few more extra pounds than their partner. Or that the other woman has way less meat on her bones. It doesn’t matter if she is more or less attractive. It doesn’t matter if she is married or not. All the matters at the time are that she is someone different than what he has and that makes him curious.
But not because I pointed out the reasons why men cheat it doesn’t mean that I’m implying that every man cheat. Not all men cheat! According to Donna Barnes the author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships and an authority in the field of breakup that the statement that all men cheat and that no man is capable of being faithful is how it is for some men that make excuses for their bad behavior. She said:
I’ve coached an aweful lot of men who had said to me that they absolutely believe in monogamy and that they only want one person. So they are out there and they’re more than you would think. So do not sell yourself short putting on with someone who’s unfaithful to you if that’s painful to you because it’s just that you’re making a choice of that kind of man and you need to really look at the kind of person that you’re attracted to and you can change that!
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I’m Alex Mercedes and for most men, there is no single factor that drives the decision to be unfaithful. And sometimes a man’s reasons for cheating evolve as his life circumstances change. Regardless of the reasons he might have to cheat there’s always another option. He doesn’t have to do it. There is always an alternative solution to whatever reasons he had. A man always has choices that don’t involve degrading his integrity and potentially ruining the life that he and his significant other have built together.